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> I don't think I should have to worry about bothering someone at 3 AM. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect other people to have do not disturb on / noti

> I don't think I should have to worry about bothering someone at 3 AM. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect other people to have do not disturb on / notifications off whenever they don't want to be disturbed. I don't enable do not disturb for people who think that way. I just block them. If you are rude and entitled enough to decide you can disturb me any time you like, I'll ensure you can't. 3am calls/texts are fine for friends/family with an emergency. I will not let you put them at risk because I needed to dnd my phone because you choose to be a jerk.

Forgeties79 4y ago
I think it’s sort of depends on the workplace culture and everybody buying in or not. At my company, they are very strict about “just because you message somebody on slack doesn’t mean they have to respond immediately.” The corollary is “if you don’t set yourself as away or indicate you’re on PTO, as long as it isn’t wildly outside of work hours I expect a response.” So I have no problem sending somebody a message at 10 AM on a Saturday. Because I know that everybody at the company generally has everything flipped off. Even if they get a notification, my assumption is that they will go “oh I forgot to turn that off,” flick it off, and promptly respond to me on Monday. Like most of these things, the devil is in the details. And if you don’t make the rules clear from the get-go, then it can be ripe for abuse and situations like you being bothered by people in the middle of the night arise.
jimwalsh 4y ago
You realize phones can dnd everyone but the people you want to disturb you in the middle of the night now right?
- bigiain 4y ago
  Sure. I choose to use default-allow, and block people I consider rude and/or abusive. I want my partner/friends/family to reliably be able to emergency call me from a payphone or borrowed phone, more than I want to pander to cow orkers with vestigial social skills.

Forgeties79 4y ago

I think it’s sort of depends on the workplace culture and everybody buying in or not. At my company, they are very strict about “just because you message somebody on slack doesn’t mean they have to respond immediately.” The corollary is “if you don’t set yourself as away or indicate you’re on PTO, as long as it isn’t wildly outside of work hours I expect a response.” So I have no problem sending somebody a message at 10 AM on a Saturday. Because I know that everybody at the company generally has everything flipped off. Even if they get a notification, my assumption is that they will go “oh I forgot to turn that off,” flick it off, and promptly respond to me on Monday. Like most of these things, the devil is in the details. And if you don’t make the rules clear from the get-go, then it can be ripe for abuse and situations like you being bothered by people in the middle of the night arise.

jimwalsh 4y ago

You realize phones can dnd everyone but the people you want to disturb you in the middle of the night now right?

bigiain 4y ago
Sure. I choose to use default-allow, and block people I consider rude and/or abusive. I want my partner/friends/family to reliably be able to emergency call me from a payphone or borrowed phone, more than I want to pander to cow orkers with vestigial social skills.