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I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. While this can be challenging everywhere, the US is especially bad at providing

by TimPC 4y ago

I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. While this can be challenging everywhere, the US is especially bad at providing adequate support, both financially and otherwise. What might help you is looking for a job with part time responsibilities and part time wages and investing full-time into that job if you need to to keep up. If this is viable for a tech role you’re likely to easily afford your fairly modest lifestyle living with family. I know this sounds a bit depressing as you’re essentially taking on a full-time schedule for part-time pay but it’s better than not having a job at all. Other options include looking at work where pain isn’t likely to substantially impair your performance so that you’d be able to get things done. This may involve drastic pay cuts as well, but again while you’re living with family and have a modest lifestyle even a drastic pay cut from peak of the tech market can lead to affording what you need. As far as therapists go, I’d be considering reevaluating the ones I’ve talked to if you talked with them about your dwindling financial resources and none of them attempted to find an adequate solution or tried to help you get back on track. If you haven’t mentioned it at all you may want to consider doing so if they might have useful advice. If all else fails, cut costs aggressively. The lack of freedom from not having your own car sucks but it’s better than being bankrupt or cutting needed therapy (if a family member can drive you there). If cutting a car is absolutely impossible for your life then it seems essential to figure out what work you can manage to handle and seek employment in that quickly.

epgui 4y ago
> I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. The US is such a bad country by almost any fundamental metric... I think it's just a matter of time before its economic privilege implodes.
- epgui 4y ago
  My comment was not popular, but it's hardly unreasonable. Even the FT writes: > While US political risk in global comparisons is still relatively low (it ranks 85 out of the 127 countries tracked by Rosenberg), it is now by far the highest of any developed market. Only countries such as Turkey, Colombia, Mexico and Israel look anything like the US within the OECD nations. Even more worrisome is the fact that the change and volatility of key metrics, including the risks of social and government instability, political violence and even the risk to democracy, make the US look much more like a developing nation than a developed one — let alone the supposed leader of the free world. https://www.ft.com/content/7b40420e-c678-4400-a4bd-ccdbbc44557e https://www.ft.com/content/7b40420e-c678-4400-a4bd-ccdbbc445...
RickJWagner 4y ago
Yes, the pain would clearly be much less if OP were elsewhere. It's why the US border is clogged with people trying to get in. They hate the better care elsewhere, obviously. Yeesh.
- TimPC 4y ago
  Well he’s already mentioned his disability will be denied by the state and that he will have to appeal. Most countries don’t have a default policy of assuming disability claims are fraudulent and doing everything in their power to minimize them. So there is that. The fact that you have one border with one country that is significantly behind you economically and people cross that border to try and find a better life is not evidence you’re the best place ever. Maybe Mexico is a hellhole and America is thoroughly mediocre but still better than a hellhole. Most people in most parts of the west won’t trade their rights and benefits for the American side of the equation. The world is watching in disbelief as your Supreme Court sets you back 50 years on basic bodily autonomy, freedom from religious coercion, or the ability to have environmental standards. People of the world mostly don’t want to trade their rights for whatever rights Christian Facists deem acceptable.
askafriend 4y ago
> I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. At least in the USA, the ADA ensures that many places are built to be wheelchair-accessible; bathrooms in public places have accommodations, grocery stores have ramps, stairs always have an alternative, etc I'm pretty sure in most countries in the world, mobility would be far lower for the disabled.
- aaaaaaaaata 4y ago
  The ADA ensures these things where people complain about them only.
- TimPC 4y ago
  Most countries have laws that require accessibility whenever a building is updated/rebuilt. It can be slightly harder in countries with more older buildings. But access to random spaces in public is less important if you can’t afford to live which the US makes a reality for many disabled people by denying them disability payments and not having decent public healthcare.

by TimPC 4y ago

epgui 4y ago

> I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. The US is such a bad country by almost any fundamental metric... I think it's just a matter of time before its economic privilege implodes.

epgui 4y ago
My comment was not popular, but it's hardly unreasonable. Even the FT writes: > While US political risk in global comparisons is still relatively low (it ranks 85 out of the 127 countries tracked by Rosenberg), it is now by far the highest of any developed market. Only countries such as Turkey, Colombia, Mexico and Israel look anything like the US within the OECD nations. Even more worrisome is the fact that the change and volatility of key metrics, including the risks of social and government instability, political violence and even the risk to democracy, make the US look much more like a developing nation than a developed one — let alone the supposed leader of the free world. https://www.ft.com/content/7b40420e-c678-4400-a4bd-ccdbbc44557e https://www.ft.com/content/7b40420e-c678-4400-a4bd-ccdbbc445...

RickJWagner 4y ago

Yes, the pain would clearly be much less if OP were elsewhere. It's why the US border is clogged with people trying to get in. They hate the better care elsewhere, obviously. Yeesh.

TimPC 4y ago
Well he’s already mentioned his disability will be denied by the state and that he will have to appeal. Most countries don’t have a default policy of assuming disability claims are fraudulent and doing everything in their power to minimize them. So there is that. The fact that you have one border with one country that is significantly behind you economically and people cross that border to try and find a better life is not evidence you’re the best place ever. Maybe Mexico is a hellhole and America is thoroughly mediocre but still better than a hellhole. Most people in most parts of the west won’t trade their rights and benefits for the American side of the equation. The world is watching in disbelief as your Supreme Court sets you back 50 years on basic bodily autonomy, freedom from religious coercion, or the ability to have environmental standards. People of the world mostly don’t want to trade their rights for whatever rights Christian Facists deem acceptable.

askafriend 4y ago

> I’m sorry you live in one of the worst countries in the world to be disabled in. At least in the USA, the ADA ensures that many places are built to be wheelchair-accessible; bathrooms in public places have accommodations, grocery stores have ramps, stairs always have an alternative, etc I'm pretty sure in most countries in the world, mobility would be far lower for the disabled.

aaaaaaaaata 4y ago
The ADA ensures these things where people complain about them only.
TimPC 4y ago
Most countries have laws that require accessibility whenever a building is updated/rebuilt. It can be slightly harder in countries with more older buildings. But access to random spaces in public is less important if you can’t afford to live which the US makes a reality for many disabled people by denying them disability payments and not having decent public healthcare.