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Make sure you (both) take enough time off. Find help so you can take at least one night out a week together. Everyone seems to have their own advice (e.g. liter

by ukd1 4y ago

Make sure you (both) take enough time off. Find help so you can take at least one night out a week together. Everyone seems to have their own advice (e.g. literally had two nurses back to back give different advice...aka opinions), you've got to figure out your own, sometimes not perfect way. The kid will adapt, even when you make mistakes. A lot of pediatricians seem incompetent. Double check their recommendations / work. e.g. "your baby didn't grow" -> "no, you weighted AND measured him wrong, do it again" -> "oh.". If you choose no circumision, American pediatricians seem to have zero idea what to do. Monitors, we tried video + just sound monitors. Semi-obviously in retrospect, the video ones a) work less well b) take more of your focus. I've read the same about smart-monitors (no first hand), their unreliability ends up making things more stressful. Stuff to buy for the start; wipewarmer (calmer changing time, as you don't put cold wetwipes on the baby), thermometer (for when you think they're too hot / cold constantly), tiny nail clippers or grider (as, their nails are sharp AF - cut you and themselves), if using formula a Baby Brezza mixer / warmer (it makes warm milk for you in seconds, rather than manually in minutes) + a bottle sterilizer to save time.

technothrasher 4y ago
> If you choose no circumision, American pediatricians seem to have zero idea what to do. I got tag-teamed by the pediatrician and my wife, both suggesting I was some kind of monster for questioning the need for the circumcision.
- Freak_NL 4y ago
  Did you give in? I mentioned this in another post, but this is completely unfathomable for most parents outside of the US excepting Jews and Muslims. It's also a very weird phenomenon culturally: the fact that it is so common in the US (between 20% and 95% or something like that varying by US state) is a surprise to many outside of it — and conversely, that most cultures don't do this at all seems to surprise many Americans.
  - jventura 4y ago
    > but this is completely unfathomable for most parents outside of the US excepting Jews and Muslims. Yeah! This is the third or fourth time I read about circumcision in the responses (after lots of answers, some for some against it), and I'm thinking WTF is wrong with all these people! For context, I'm from Europe, and circumcision is absolutely a non-topic here..
  - technothrasher 4y ago
    > Did you give in? I did. I've apologized to him (he's sixteen now) that I did back then. He understands, but agrees he would have been on my side of the argument.

by ukd1 4y ago

technothrasher 4y ago

> If you choose no circumision, American pediatricians seem to have zero idea what to do. I got tag-teamed by the pediatrician and my wife, both suggesting I was some kind of monster for questioning the need for the circumcision.

Freak_NL 4y ago
Did you give in? I mentioned this in another post, but this is completely unfathomable for most parents outside of the US excepting Jews and Muslims. It's also a very weird phenomenon culturally: the fact that it is so common in the US (between 20% and 95% or something like that varying by US state) is a surprise to many outside of it — and conversely, that most cultures don't do this at all seems to surprise many Americans.
- jventura 4y ago
  > but this is completely unfathomable for most parents outside of the US excepting Jews and Muslims. Yeah! This is the third or fourth time I read about circumcision in the responses (after lots of answers, some for some against it), and I'm thinking WTF is wrong with all these people! For context, I'm from Europe, and circumcision is absolutely a non-topic here..
- technothrasher 4y ago
  > Did you give in? I did. I've apologized to him (he's sixteen now) that I did back then. He understands, but agrees he would have been on my side of the argument.