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Something I wish I'd learned much sooner: From birth, be unfailingly patient, warm, and loving with the little bugger, no matter how frustrated you might be fe
by dctoedt 4y ago
Something I wish I'd learned much sooner: From birth, be unfailingly patient, warm, and loving with the little bugger, no matter how frustrated you might be feeling. Matter-of-factly communicating unhappiness with him* is fine, but never, ever get angry with him — when he's "misbehaving," talking back, etc., it's because his brain and its "programming" are still developing and he doesn't have nearly as much control as you might imagine, or as you think he ought to.
* Or her, of course.
- wingtw 4y agoOn top of that VERY correct advice - agree with your sign other to take such loads separately - as one can take over if another feels it gets too much. And do communicate it! Say, hon, i cant take it any more, please take over. And tell her to do the same. And might want to have some earbuds or smth to calm down afterwards and be ready to repeat - as sometimes (and with some kids) it takes a while
- atomicnumber3 4y agoAnd at the same time, when you inevitably fail at the unfailing part, apologize to them and then just try to do better. Strive for unfailing, but also understand that you'll never achieve it while yet we are but mortal flesh.
- CuriousSkeptic 4y ago> be unfailingly patient In concrete terms. When being late for work and getting the kid to daycare and they just absolutely insist they cant leave without having correct coloured socks. Take a deep breath. Realise that that work probably can wait an hour, and that being heard and getting needs respected probably is much more important for your kid, and the colour of the socks might actually not be the real issue if you just take the time to figure it out