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> 2) if the baby isn't sleeping through the night by 6-8 months, pay for a sleep consultant. That's what we've done, it was the best spent money in the world, I

> 2) if the baby isn't sleeping through the night by 6-8 months, pay for a sleep consultant. That's what we've done, it was the best spent money in the world, I'd pay 10x as much as we have. Our baby boy was waking up literally every hour at night from 4 months of age until 8 months, I think we were on the verge of going mad, it was completely unsustainable. After a 2 week training session with a consultant he started sleeping through the night, sleep solidly from 7pm till 5am(which is fine with us). Out of curiousity: what was the exact reason your baby boy didn't sleep through the night? I'm a father of 13 month old baby as well and my boy has just started sleeping basically all night long

gambiting 4y ago
It was basically the fact that we were going up to him and picking him up the second he would wake up at night. Like, it's a parental instinct, right? Baby wakes up, so you go up to him to comfort him and help him go to sleep. Which.....sure, works, and is nice, but turns out that he became completely dependent on it, and it was something that the sleep consultant immediately pointed out. The "training" was basically teaching him that yes, he can fall asleep on his own, and no, we won't be there within 60 seconds of him starting to cry. For the first few days we'd just sit next to his bed without picking him up, then next few days sit in his room but further away, then start leaving the room after 10 minutes, then 5, then immediately, and after 2 weeks it broke his association that he can only fall asleep in our arms - and started settling himself to sleep. Every kid is different though, and that's where the consultant comes in - they made a plan specific to our baby, and he was always available on WhatsApp 24/7 to answer any questions we had.
- em-bee 4y ago
  that's where bed-sharing really helps. our kids never made a fuss at night, and practically slept through except if they needed to feed. i observed one family letting their baby cry it out and decided for myself that i'd never do that to my kids.

gambiting 4y ago

It was basically the fact that we were going up to him and picking him up the second he would wake up at night. Like, it's a parental instinct, right? Baby wakes up, so you go up to him to comfort him and help him go to sleep. Which.....sure, works, and is nice, but turns out that he became completely dependent on it, and it was something that the sleep consultant immediately pointed out. The "training" was basically teaching him that yes, he can fall asleep on his own, and no, we won't be there within 60 seconds of him starting to cry. For the first few days we'd just sit next to his bed without picking him up, then next few days sit in his room but further away, then start leaving the room after 10 minutes, then 5, then immediately, and after 2 weeks it broke his association that he can only fall asleep in our arms - and started settling himself to sleep. Every kid is different though, and that's where the consultant comes in - they made a plan specific to our baby, and he was always available on WhatsApp 24/7 to answer any questions we had.

em-bee 4y ago
that's where bed-sharing really helps. our kids never made a fuss at night, and practically slept through except if they needed to feed. i observed one family letting their baby cry it out and decided for myself that i'd never do that to my kids.