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They may want to give a new Mom a contraceptive shot. They may sneak it in even if you've vociferously refused. Our experience was that it drove my wife almost

They may want to give a new Mom a contraceptive shot. They may sneak it in even if you've vociferously refused. Our experience was that it drove my wife almost insane and severely damaged her bonding with our daughter. It was 8 months before the shit faded and she came back to herself. If you plan to do the baby sling thing and keep your child with you as much as you can; start practicing wearing the sling (with weights) now, and work out the issues and accommodations when its not as critical if you drop things. If you don't have a dog yet, adopt one. Raising puppies is a good lower impact introduction to the general field of "small mammal infant care"; and dogs and babies go quite well together in so many other synergistic ways.

dkyc 4y ago
I'm a little amused - I really wouldn't have expected "get a puppie at the same time" as advice for someone who'll have their first child in two months. Particularly coming from somebody who who has been in that situation themselves. But I never had kids, so what do I know!
omginternets 4y ago
What’s this about giving mothers a contraceptive shot??
- ranko 4y ago
  I'm struggling to believe this - without informed consent this has to be medical malpractice (enough to end someone's career) and/or a crime.
  - h2odragon 4y ago
    My conclusion was that since the doctor showed up after the delivery, he had to find something to do to justify billing. I was out of the room watching the baby at that moment because we didn't trust nobody there at that point.
- h2odragon 4y ago
  NFI; they insisted it was standard and refused to listen to complaints about the reaction. postpartum hormones are already fucked up and this couldn't have helped. Among other things, it made her skin so sensitive she found it hard to wear clothing, and nursing was torture. She still had periods too; so it probably wasn't actually functioning as a fertility blocker. This shit: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medroxyprogesterone_acetate https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medroxyprogesterone_acetate She's one of those lucky people for whom no drug seems to work as advertised, all she gets are the side effects and usually much worse than the text of the drug warnings describes.
dbingham 4y ago
Yeah, don't get a dog now, it's too late. There is a lot of evidence to support the idea that living with a well mannered dog is really great for kids on many levels (immune, psychology, etc). But raising a puppy is a whole order of magnitude of stress on its own, and puppies can be very difficult to train and take years to settle down. Having a 3 or 4 year old dog + a baby is great. Having a puppy and a baby at the same time is like having twins (or worse). My partner and I did this by accident. We were having infertility struggles and our old dog died, so we adopted a 5 month old puppy. A year later we finally got pregnant. Now we have a 2 and half year old dog and a 1 year old baby and things are just settling down to a manageable level of stress. We just about lost our minds trying to manage both and the puppy definitely didn't get the attention he needed. I think we'll all be okay in the long run, and the baby adores the dog. But if we were to do it again we would not have both puppy and baby at the same time.

dkyc 4y ago

I'm a little amused - I really wouldn't have expected "get a puppie at the same time" as advice for someone who'll have their first child in two months. Particularly coming from somebody who who has been in that situation themselves. But I never had kids, so what do I know!

omginternets 4y ago

What’s this about giving mothers a contraceptive shot??

ranko 4y ago
I'm struggling to believe this - without informed consent this has to be medical malpractice (enough to end someone's career) and/or a crime.
- h2odragon 4y ago
  My conclusion was that since the doctor showed up after the delivery, he had to find something to do to justify billing. I was out of the room watching the baby at that moment because we didn't trust nobody there at that point.
h2odragon 4y ago
NFI; they insisted it was standard and refused to listen to complaints about the reaction. postpartum hormones are already fucked up and this couldn't have helped. Among other things, it made her skin so sensitive she found it hard to wear clothing, and nursing was torture. She still had periods too; so it probably wasn't actually functioning as a fertility blocker. This shit: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medroxyprogesterone_acetate https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medroxyprogesterone_acetate She's one of those lucky people for whom no drug seems to work as advertised, all she gets are the side effects and usually much worse than the text of the drug warnings describes.

dbingham 4y ago

Yeah, don't get a dog now, it's too late. There is a lot of evidence to support the idea that living with a well mannered dog is really great for kids on many levels (immune, psychology, etc). But raising a puppy is a whole order of magnitude of stress on its own, and puppies can be very difficult to train and take years to settle down. Having a 3 or 4 year old dog + a baby is great. Having a puppy and a baby at the same time is like having twins (or worse). My partner and I did this by accident. We were having infertility struggles and our old dog died, so we adopted a 5 month old puppy. A year later we finally got pregnant. Now we have a 2 and half year old dog and a 1 year old baby and things are just settling down to a manageable level of stress. We just about lost our minds trying to manage both and the puppy definitely didn't get the attention he needed. I think we'll all be okay in the long run, and the baby adores the dog. But if we were to do it again we would not have both puppy and baby at the same time.