I have two close friends who found themselves in your situation but are now in their 50s. One remains single and the other doesn't. The one who married chose so

I have two close friends who found themselves in your situation but are now in their 50s. One remains single and the other doesn't. The one who married chose someone who initially surprised me. He had issues and I didn't think it was a great match. They still have to deal with some of these issues but they are very happy. You seem to be trying very hard which suggests you may have big expectations. If someone is thoughtful and makes you laugh, this is a good start. The other thing I would say to you is go to a local church. They are often at the heart of local communities. It can be a good way to get to know people in a more meaningful way.