Having read a lot of this thread before seeing this, I keep wondering to myself, what must she look like? I think physical attraction is the first and most impo

Having read a lot of this thread before seeing this, I keep wondering to myself, what must she look like? I think physical attraction is the first and most important thing to match on. After all, you really do need to fancy the other person. To go on over 100 dates without success had me thinking you must be unattractive. So, I went to your domain and saw you are obviously attractive (to me anyway - married, not looking for a date). It isn’t your looks is all I’m saying, so I guess this is a positive. All I can add is my own experience. I found love when I was least expecting it. In a bar of all places, 2 weeks after arriving in a new country for a working holiday. Happily married for over 15 years with 2 kids. I was absolutely not looking for a relationship (how often have you heard the cliche that you find love when you least expect it?). I suggest focusing on who makes you feel good and puts a fire in your belly. Try to forget about kids and all the rest. That (hopefully) comes later, after you have found someone you like, as the relationship develops. Pressure and desperation won’t do you any favours. As difficult as it probably is with your current mindset, stop trying too hard. Live your life. What will be will be etc. Once you stop looking and trying too hard, you will probably discover something new. Certainly what you have been trying isn’t working! Good luck in life.