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Ok, don't take this wrong. I'm rooting for you. But there's the red flag. He said something that's a common expression, "taken", which is used for both men and
by _tom_ 4y ago
Ok, don't take this wrong. I'm rooting for you. But there's the red flag.
He said something that's a common expression, "taken", which is used for both men and women. It was clearly intended to be a compliment.
You chose an unlikely interpretation that clearly didn't match intent or common usage and decided to get offended about it.
After all your self description, I was wondering "how is she single?"
Right there, now I understand. I'd be out the door. Someone that is looking HARD for ways to be offended is not relationship material.
Think about your need to assign your meanings to other people's words. Maybe talk to a professional. This one thing can sink you.
Good luck!
- vimy 4y agoI was thinking the same thing.
- pcthrowaway 4y ago> Someone that is looking HARD for ways to be offended is not relationship material. Relationship material is subjective, and this is a really insensitive way to say you don't think you'd be compatible with them (some might say insensitivity makes someone "not relationship material") For what it's worth, I'm a man and I understand why that language is off-putting to women. Also more interested in women who are more interested in being the taker than the takee, but I'm weird like that, I think gender scripts have most men seeking women looking for partners to take a more passive role (at least in some regards)
- claydolatry 4y ago
- anon2020dot00 4y agoWell said, also another red flag, at least for me, is that she mentioned that she is looking for qualities of a partner like looking for a CTO. But the difference is that with a CTO is it is purely an economic relationship which can be terminated at anytime with no hard feelings while with a life partner or a husband, it is more of a covenant relationship meant to survive future uncertainties and so really less flashy qualities such as loyalty, tolerance and humility are more attractive than popularity, beauty or intelligence.
- em-bee 4y agoloyalty, tolerance and humility are qualities i would also like in a business partner because our business relationship should also be able * to survive future uncertainties*
- actfrench 4y agoI absolutely disagree. Someone you work with every day who is an intimate partner in your company that you depend on for your livelihood is far from someone that you can terminate with no hard feelings. I'm sure anyone who has built a company and had to part with a CTO knows that there were many many feelings involved and it was a real partnership and by no means easy.