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The real hack is to pretend to be very interested in something men are interested in and keep up that pretense for the rest of your life. Like the female equiva
by fdhsbjasvh 4y ago
The real hack is to pretend to be very interested in something men are interested in and keep up that pretense for the rest of your life. Like the female equivalent of salsa. Sure it sucks, it's a big investment of effort and time in something you have absolutely no innate interest in, but it serves as a costly signal on your willingness to compromise. I'd probably wife up the first woman who shared any of my hobbies. The other hack is niche marketing. You don't try to be all things to all people, nor go for the same men most other women go for, you look for an underserved market. You can combine the two by picking up an esoteric hobby that typically only men do.
- em-bee 4y agoshe doesn't have to share the hobbies, but at least be supportive and encouraging. similar about work. but it goes both ways in my eyes. i should be able to be supportive of my wifes interests, and she should be supportive of mine. the interests don't need to be the same, but they should not conflict either.
- fdhsbjasvh 4y agoThe signal must be costly otherwise it is not a signal.
- em-bee 4y agoif you truly love someone then you care about their happiness, and that includes caring about their interests. you should naturally want to support their interests because you want to make them happy.
- fdhsbjasvh 4y agoThat’s why it’s a hack. It’s unreasonably effective. Waiting for true love is how people end up alone.
- em-bee 4y agotrue love is the goal that you want to develop with your current partner. you do it by caring about them and their interests, and getting them to care about yours. the point is: don't just pretend to be interested. but try to honestly care. if you honestly love this person, you should be able to. pretending may help to get you started, but if you have to keep pretending, you may end up unhappy. better find something else to love about your partner.
- fdhsbjasvh 4y agoIf you don’t want to use a hack to get something you want then don’t.
- em-bee 4y agoif i love my partner, i don't need to hack it, i just need to extend that love to everything about them.