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I’m going to provide you with some horrible advice. Please don’t take it. Date married men. There are a huge number of married men in my social group who want
by jmpman 4y ago
I’m going to provide you with some horrible advice. Please don’t take it.
Date married men.
There are a huge number of married men in my social group who want to have kids, but their spouse is unable or unwilling. These men sound just as forlorn as you.
One finally divorced his wife and is engaged to a woman with two young sons. I’ve never seen him as happy.
I’d estimate that 10% of my married male friends are in this circumstance. Half are deeply committed to their wives, but the other half could be swayed by the opportunity for a family. Those 10% of men, are significantly better catches than any of my still unmarried friends.
My unmarried friends have mental illness, drug/alcohol addiction, or… both. One has a significant physical disability. It’s a horrible pool to date from.
Again, disregard my advice.. but that’s what I’d do if I were you.
- tomcam 4y agoI see your logic, but it seems fundamentally unsound to consider settling down for life with a cheater. And if I daresay, immoral as well.
- actfrench 4y agoI appreciate you thinking outside the box. Usually I think of being attracted to a married man as being attracted to someone unavailable. I would be wary about doing this as I wouldn't want to hurt another woman. However, I think that there can be a nice compromise where I make friends with more men, perhaps some of whom are married, if their wife knows about it. I do think that a lot of marriages are unhappy, which is why being selective isn't such a bad thing. It's better to be single than stuck in an unhappy relationship, in my point of view. Thanks again for thinking outside the box. And the way you phrased things made me smile.