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I always check with a trusted friend to make sure I have a good reason for not going on a second date. It is NEVER because I didn’t feel a “spark” Reasons wou
by actfrench 4y ago
I always check with a trusted friend to make sure I have a good reason for not going on a second date.
It is NEVER because I didn’t feel a “spark”
Reasons would include rudeness, meanness, treating service workers with disrespect, speaking for an hour without asking me a question, and occasionally completely not physically attractive to me for a very specific reason. Women tend to get criticized a lot for the last one, but oddly, no one tells men to try again with women they find physically unattractive…and even here I push myself past my limits.
Given that - it’s 90% I turn down, 10% don’t ask me out again - I usually assume if a guy doesn’t it means hes not interested. But perhaps I’m too attached to traditional gender roles
- sacrosancty 4y agoWait a minute, are those 90% and 10% separate groups? Ask the 10% out again yourself!! They might be thinking you're the one who's not interested! A little positive story. My parents met when my mother was about 40 and father 60. Stayed together the rest of his life. But they both had their psychological problems and I think my father was a little abusive - certainly arrogant toward her.
- silverlake 4y agoShot down 90% of 120 men! These aren’t random men; you filtered their profiles. My advice: read about the secretary problem. Marry the next guy that seems better than all previous guys. It’s mathematically the right strategy here.
- jbstjohn 4y agoHas your trusted friend ever said "no, that's not a good reason"? Because, if not at least few times by the 100+ people, they are probably not providing the service you think they, but instead just agreeing with what they think you want to hear.