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I get the point, but maybe that looking desperate puts people off, so being more relaxed could help. I recall being dismay that when single no one showed intere
by tails4e 4y ago
I get the point, but maybe that looking desperate puts people off, so being more relaxed could help. I recall being dismay that when single no one showed interest, while in a relationship women seems to ask me out (still rarely, but not 0)... Long story short I think the message is don't be too intense, but be honest you're looking for a relationship and not a hookup.
- withinboredom 4y agoHaha, that’s another bit of advice: put a wedding ring on. I would hardly ever get hit on until I put my wedding ring on. Then it was like they came out of the woodwork every weekend I went out. No idea if any of those would ever manifest an actual relationship, but could be worth trying.
- actfrench 4y agoIf putting on a wedding ring attracts guys who want to get married, I'd be pretty surprised. Or kind of curious about why a guy who wants to get married would be going after a married woman! On the other hand, if it leads to friendship without the pressure, why not?
- actfrench 4y agoI think being honest with yourself - and others by extension is the key. Someone else won't MAKE you happy. And no one really knows they want to marry and have kids with someone they just met on a first date. It's so hypothetical. So be honest with yourself and that will flow into your relations with others.
- tails4e 4y agoWhen I met my wife, the very first night, we had a really open and honest conversation about where we were/what we wanted, including talking about marriage (not to each other specifically, just we were looking to settle down). It was nice to not dance around those topics as if they were taboo, or wonder if we were wasting time by not having similar objectives.