There is a solid system that I have seen work quite well in the workplace and a few of my colleagues relationships. https://issendai.com/psychology/sick-system

There is a solid system that I have seen work quite well in the workplace and a few of my colleagues relationships. https://issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html https://issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html Use demographics to your advantage. An obvious example: Chinese men have to clear a very high bar to be marriage material because of the shortage of women. Take advantage of this. You could start learning a martial art popular in China, then do an extended trip over there to “study” that style. That would give you the excuse to meet thousands of men self selected for attractive traits and a setting for in depth interaction several hours a day. Hire a private researcher like gwern.org to research a source of unfair demographic advantage for you. I think Elisabeth from LessWrong is also available for arbitrary research hire but I don’t remember her website. Maybe someone else can link?