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Personally, I don’t believe dates work for love. For lust, attraction, and curiosity/discovery, sure. But love is what grows over time after (continuous/regular
by spockz 4y ago
Personally, I don’t believe dates work for love. For lust, attraction, and curiosity/discovery, sure. But love is what grows over time after (continuous/regular) prolonged exposure. Mostly out of friendship. It is also one of those things that always seems to rise (as a feeling) when you least expect it and aren’t looking for it. Every couple I know met their significant other around study, family acquaintances, sports clubs, etc. Somewhere with a shared, safe(?), reason for being there out of which something grows.
Live your life, meet people. Stop looking desperately and just observe.
- xiphias2 4y agoThere is data supporting what you write. The longer a man and woman has known eachother before starting dating, the less picky women get in regards to how physically attractive the man has to be according to a statistic that was looking at relationships.
- the_only_law 4y agoOddly I find that the longer I know someone, the less likely I am to be attracted to them in that sort of way.
- metadat 4y agoThat's actually a good thing, those feelings are a strong signal you probably wouldn't be a fit together.
- actfrench 4y agoThis is beautiful. (maybe minus the stop looking desperately part, that's hard to enact)
- jimmygrapes 4y agoMy mom is/was not a great person overall but one thing she imparted to me at a young age sticks with me today: "dating is just divorce practice; either find friends or be a sperm donor"
- norwalkbear 4y agoNo offense, but that's not advice it's just deep bitterness.
- em-bee 4y agofinding friends is really the best advice that can be given in just two words.