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Have all the rejections been from one side, or has there been a mix? I don't think I have a great answer. Before I met my wife, it felt hopeless. I had dates a

Have all the rejections been from one side, or has there been a mix? I don't think I have a great answer. Before I met my wife, it felt hopeless. I had dates and girlfriends, but no one I would want to spend the rest of my life with. And then I met my wife at work, and very quickly it felt obvious that I would spend the rest of my life with her. I guess my point is that it isn't something you build up to, necessarily. It goes from "there is no way I could find a life partner" to "I can't imagine not being with this person" without much in between. It isn't like you start with someone where you say, "Oh, I could spend a few weeks with this person", move on to the one year person, before finally getting to the lifetime partner... it just happens.

actfrench 4y ago
This advice really struck me and I think might allude to something that really has been blocking me from meeting someone. I think that I've had an expectation that guys would immediately know that I was someone that they'd want to spend the rest of their lives with and be really passionate about or else "they just weren't that into me." Maybe call me naive, and I am sure I am, but it's really helpful to see how it works of someone just enjoying time with you, and then after a few months or a year, realizing that they might want to keep doing that for the rest of their lives. This really helps. Thank you.