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It sounds like you’ve been trying the typical “random” dating approach. Meet some guy, figure out if you like each other, then ??? That approach has a high miss
by bequanna 4y ago
It sounds like you’ve been trying the typical “random” dating approach. Meet some guy, figure out if you like each other, then ??? That approach has a high miss rate and doesn’t work for all people.
If you are indeed ready to find someone I would advise you to get pragmatic and be specific about exactly what you want.
Write down exactly who you are looking for. Try to narrow to age, race, physical characteristics, etc. Literally, every aspect that is important to you. Write it down with a pen on paper. Make it real and get it out of your head.
Then, aggressively start looking and use the criteria you’ve developed.
- PhaedrusV 4y agoAs an alternative I suggest just listing out deal breakers and following up with anyone who doesn't violate them. Second pass is incongruence. The best advice I every got on hiring was to not hire people whose projected persona wasn't congruent; what that means changes from person to person, but it ends up being critical for close relationships.