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I'm not sure this will be at all helpful to you, but I will ahar a short story that had a meaningful impact on myself. I was at the point where I felt finding s
by Cerium 4y ago
I'm not sure this will be at all helpful to you, but I will ahar a short story that had a meaningful impact on myself. I was at the point where I felt finding someone was hopeless (though now I realize I was still quite young). I was on a tour trip and spent a few days with a couple whom I learned found each other through an arraigned marriage. At first I was out off by the idea, but over the few days together l realized that they had something beautiful. They made a commitment to work together. After that I changed my efforts from finding a perfect match to finding someone I could work together with. Since then I have known my partner for 10 years and been married for over seven.
- 4lejandrito 4y agoI like this story. It reminded to a video I saw the other day talking about how the romantic love from literature has shaped our expectations. I also believe finding the perfect person is really hard. However working on the relationship and overcoming difficulties is what really brings couples closer. At least I see it that way with my wife. https://youtu.be/sPOuIyEJnbE https://youtu.be/sPOuIyEJnbE
- actfrench 4y agoThat’s lovely
- actfrench 4y agoI think arranged marriage can be incredibly successful. And people in arranged marriages do date. They often have the possibility to see options and say yes or no. One of the challenges of freedom is that it opens up our options so much that it can make it very hard to choose. But in an arranged marriage, the parents make sure values are aligned, that extended family gets along, the two people like each other well enough and then they grow to love each other. It's much more clearly laid out than modern dating. I heard a story of a Japanese man who was in an arranged marriage who proudly exclaimed, I love my life and it's only taken 15 years! :)