Some people would say thank you for taking the time to explain. Others seem to belittle long answers. Which message do you want to convey? Something else? Do yo

Some people would say thank you for taking the time to explain. Others seem to belittle long answers. Which message do you want to convey? Something else? Do you want me to try again to distill it in a way that you can understand? If so, what effort have you put in to meet me halfway? Look I'm being direct with you, but I'm not upset or attacking you. I'm just seeing the standard patterns of online discussion, and I'm pushing back. We can do better. There's too much passive aggression wrapped in seemingly logical arguments. But one level deeper it is really clear what is bothering people. I think people don't feel heard. They want to convince people but somehow fall back into sharp criticism which just repels people.