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I'm 6'4" and have been a serial dater for 20 years (thanks Spark Match then POF then Tinder.) Ive played around with personas a bit, while obviously my hight s

I'm 6'4" and have been a serial dater for 20 years (thanks Spark Match then POF then Tinder.) Ive played around with personas a bit, while obviously my hight stays the same. Height is not the be all end all. Even at 6'4", if I get a bit chubby, I get zero attention from women and the ones I contact basically need to be treated like relationship wife material to get anything going. If I work out for 6+ months, cashier's are giggling and fumbling my change every time I buy something. If I'm feeling off that week or month and not putting out "interesting fun vibes" I'll get ghosted pretty fast online. If I'm in the mood to put in the work, they're ready to take my home after the first date. I bet that if a 5'6" man is rocking a great personality, he will outdo a tall man with a bland personality. Is it easier to fake a positive attitude when you're tall and feel stronger than most guys around? Sure. I think this is what women associate with height more than just pure height. A 5'8" firefighter could easily steal the gf of a 6'4" chubby software developer, atleast for a few nights.

atwood22 4y ago
No offense, but with no experience being short, you’re completely out of touch.
- namecheapTA 4y ago
  While I'm not short, I have short friends and have also seen the exbfs and new bfs of my girlfriends. A gf in med school once left me for another med student that was maybe 5'7". My exgf just married a guy 6 months after meeting him.. he's 5'8" at the most. I have countless examples of girls that sounded like they really appreciated my height, and maybe they did, but they end up with shorter guys that have other physical or attitude traits going for them. Basically as you would expect statistically.
  - atwood22 4y ago
    I think you’re missing the point. No one is saying that shorter men will never be desirable to any woman. What this study suggests is that being short is a disadvantage, so short people either need to have some other traits that compensate or they won’t find a partner. In the study, they used salary to measure this (it’s ok to be short as long as you earn 270k). So yes, it’s great you know some short guys who are exemplary enough to overcome to stigma of being short. But there are plenty of unremarkable short people who are struggle.
    - namecheapTA 4y ago
      I just think the money is a weird metric. If a guy is 5'6", he could either remain a chubby dork and try to earn $270k, or he could work out and have some kind of leadership role in his community to get a better quality woman. Sounds like working out and being more assertive is a lot easier than making 3x the national income for most people. Also, if you do remain a dork and use money, your wife will still feel like she sold her soul and sex life for money. Why not just become desirable instead and then also make as much money as you want?
Teever 4y ago
It sounds like you're just reiterating the content of tweet?

atwood22 4y ago

No offense, but with no experience being short, you’re completely out of touch.

namecheapTA 4y ago
While I'm not short, I have short friends and have also seen the exbfs and new bfs of my girlfriends. A gf in med school once left me for another med student that was maybe 5'7". My exgf just married a guy 6 months after meeting him.. he's 5'8" at the most. I have countless examples of girls that sounded like they really appreciated my height, and maybe they did, but they end up with shorter guys that have other physical or attitude traits going for them. Basically as you would expect statistically.
- atwood22 4y ago
  I think you’re missing the point. No one is saying that shorter men will never be desirable to any woman. What this study suggests is that being short is a disadvantage, so short people either need to have some other traits that compensate or they won’t find a partner. In the study, they used salary to measure this (it’s ok to be short as long as you earn 270k). So yes, it’s great you know some short guys who are exemplary enough to overcome to stigma of being short. But there are plenty of unremarkable short people who are struggle.
  - namecheapTA 4y ago
    I just think the money is a weird metric. If a guy is 5'6", he could either remain a chubby dork and try to earn $270k, or he could work out and have some kind of leadership role in his community to get a better quality woman. Sounds like working out and being more assertive is a lot easier than making 3x the national income for most people. Also, if you do remain a dork and use money, your wife will still feel like she sold her soul and sex life for money. Why not just become desirable instead and then also make as much money as you want?

Teever 4y ago

It sounds like you're just reiterating the content of tweet?