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> Swim lessons? Get out of here. Church? I did imagine that. Try reading. I think we agree on this subject, but as a 3rd party in this back and forth I have to
by tomtheelder 4y ago
> Swim lessons? Get out of here. Church? I did imagine that. Try reading.
I think we agree on this subject, but as a 3rd party in this back and forth I have to say that this is not appropriate discourse for this site. Please try to interpret others comments as charitably as possible. There is never a justification for saying something snarky and rude like "Get out of here" or "Try reading".
- verisimilidude 4y agoHe’s the one who told me I was “unimaginative” and to “give my head a shake”. I just responded in kind. Don’t blame me for being a better asshole when he initiated that tone. My contribution to civility here was to just stop responding.
- xpe 4y ago> He’s the one who told me I was “unimaginative” and to “give my head a shake”. I just responded in kind. Don’t blame me for being a better a*hole when he initiated that tone. Yes, you are not the only one using unkind words. Still, most of the time, each of us (and therefore all of us as an online community) can do better. You have various options. It is tempting to fall into the attack/counter-attack posture. But instead of counter attacking, you can say something like "That was unkind" and leave it there. > My contribution to civility here was to just stop responding. A fair point. Doing so is preferable to adding fuel to the fire. Even better IMO is to reassert the community norms firmly without insulting the other person.