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>It strikes me as weird to go from a long well worded post describing how different personal opinions legitimate, to seemingly dismissing someone for having an

>It strikes me as weird to go from a long well worded post describing how different personal opinions legitimate, to seemingly dismissing someone for having an opinion. I guess my writing style isn't conducive to conveying my meaning. I won't rehash what I said previously[0] about this, but I answered (without much detail as I couldn't answer their question reasonably as I just don't know). Perhaps that's something I might think about. I am a little taken aback with this, not because folks are downvoting me, but because the first assumption folks seem to be making is that I'm writing in bad faith. Aren't we supposed to (I know I try -- not always successfully -- which doesn't reflect well on me when I don't) to read others' comments in the most charitable way/assume good faith? I'm not really sure what seemed dismissive there, I certainly didn't intend it to be so. Thank you for taking the time to express this. If I could impose upon you to clarify what, exactly, seemed dismissive, perhaps I could express myself without that impression in the future. Thanks! [0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31951326 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31951326 Edit: Added the missing link.

s1artibartfast 4y ago
From your other posts, it seems pretty clear that sentiment received was different than the sentiment intended. I think the confusion stems from a response that seems to be a non-sequitur/ orthogonal to the parent statement. Because of this, readers struggle to fill in the intent, charitable or not. >>I want to use it, because it seems like such a convenience, but every time I buy a jar it tastes...weird/bad. >I suggest that you do whatever you want/prefer. The parent comment is already trying to do what they want, but encountering a challenge. Telling someone to do what they are already doing and ignoring the challenge/question comes off as inattentive and/or dismissive. for example: "Every time I restart my computer, I get a blue screen error code. do you have advice? " "Just restart your computer" It is hard to read a logical but charitable intent. The most charitable I can get is not understanding the question, or an error in the response. Hope this helps
- nobody9999 4y ago
  >>I suggest that you do whatever you want/prefer. >The parent comment is already trying to do what they want, but encountering a challenge. >Telling someone to do what they are already doing and ignoring the question comes off as inattentive and/or dismissive. That makes sense. Thank you. That said, it was pretty clear in my mind that I meant they should use their own best judgement as that's likely the best way to get what you want. Perhaps what I should have said was: Unfortunately, I don't have a good answer for you about that, but if you find that jarred garlic tastes weird/bad, then I imagine you'd prefer just to use the fresh stuff. That said, I don't know if it's jarred garlic in general or just the stuff you purchased, but the jarred stuff *definitely* tastes different than fresh garlic. The comment that has been poorly received was lower effort than my previous comment (the one replied to by GP) and I made assumptions (that my thought process there was clear) that were unwarranted. I appreciate your time and effort in explaining this to me. I can't change the past, but I can try to do better in the future. I hope to do so.
- yellowapple 4y ago
  > "Every time I restart my computer, I get a blue screen error code. do you have advice? " > "Just restart your computer" I'm reminded of one of the Jargon File's "AI Koans": ---- A novice was trying to fix a broken Lisp machine by turning the power off and on. Knight, seeing what the student was doing, spoke sternly: “You cannot fix a machine by just power-cycling it with no understanding of what is going wrong.” Knight turned the machine off and on. The machine worked.

s1artibartfast 4y ago

From your other posts, it seems pretty clear that sentiment received was different than the sentiment intended. I think the confusion stems from a response that seems to be a non-sequitur/ orthogonal to the parent statement. Because of this, readers struggle to fill in the intent, charitable or not. >>I want to use it, because it seems like such a convenience, but every time I buy a jar it tastes...weird/bad. >I suggest that you do whatever you want/prefer. The parent comment is already trying to do what they want, but encountering a challenge. Telling someone to do what they are already doing and ignoring the challenge/question comes off as inattentive and/or dismissive. for example: "Every time I restart my computer, I get a blue screen error code. do you have advice? " "Just restart your computer" It is hard to read a logical but charitable intent. The most charitable I can get is not understanding the question, or an error in the response. Hope this helps

nobody9999 4y ago
>>I suggest that you do whatever you want/prefer. >The parent comment is already trying to do what they want, but encountering a challenge. >Telling someone to do what they are already doing and ignoring the question comes off as inattentive and/or dismissive. That makes sense. Thank you. That said, it was pretty clear in my mind that I meant they should use their own best judgement as that's likely the best way to get what you want. Perhaps what I should have said was: Unfortunately, I don't have a good answer for you about that, but if you find that jarred garlic tastes weird/bad, then I imagine you'd prefer just to use the fresh stuff. That said, I don't know if it's jarred garlic in general or just the stuff you purchased, but the jarred stuff *definitely* tastes different than fresh garlic. The comment that has been poorly received was lower effort than my previous comment (the one replied to by GP) and I made assumptions (that my thought process there was clear) that were unwarranted. I appreciate your time and effort in explaining this to me. I can't change the past, but I can try to do better in the future. I hope to do so.
yellowapple 4y ago
> "Every time I restart my computer, I get a blue screen error code. do you have advice? " > "Just restart your computer" I'm reminded of one of the Jargon File's "AI Koans": ---- A novice was trying to fix a broken Lisp machine by turning the power off and on. Knight, seeing what the student was doing, spoke sternly: “You cannot fix a machine by just power-cycling it with no understanding of what is going wrong.” Knight turned the machine off and on. The machine worked.