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> 22 is far too young Yesterday I had a stroll at the local cemetery. We discovered children tombs. One girl died when she was six years old. I can't imagine
by _nalply 4y ago
> 22 is far too young
Yesterday I had a stroll at the local cemetery. We discovered children tombs. One girl died when she was six years old.
I can't imagine how hard that was for her parents.
- bovermyer 4y agoMy best friend's son drowned at 5. To say it was devastating would be a severe understatement. Now, over a decade later, he still gets deeply depressed around two days - the day his son died, and the day his son was born.
- jugg1es 4y agoI found my son floating in the pool at a beach rental house when he was 3 (the pool door was broken). I managed to revive him with CPR and he's totally fine now. Years later, I still feel trauma from it. I often think about what my life would be like if I had found him a minute later. I feel deeply for your neighbor.
- lostmsu 4y agoWas it in their own pool or elsewhere?
- bovermyer 4y agoIt was a public pool with dozens of people watching. Why do you ask?
- lostmsu 4y agoTrying to add (anec-)data to risk assessments for own children. The sort of what to avoid thing.
- _nalply 4y agoI am a father myself. You need to weigh between letting your children learn things by doing and forbidding. Usually, when I see something I deem dangerous, I tell my children to be careful then carefully watch them. If I feel they don't take it seriously, I try to create a controlled dangerous situation. One of my sons is autistic and when he was small it was very difficult to tell him to be careful of the stove. One day I made the stove not really hot to seriously burn the hands but only very slightly. After I put my own hand on the stove, I let my son touch the stove and said, Hot, hot hot! And it was successful. He didn't burn his hand but it hurt somewhat. Another example: he doesn't swim but pushed his brother into the water at the pool. I then pushed him myself then jumped in the water to save him and told him, be careful, you can't swim. The idea: see what is dangerous then decide: can your children play by themselves, do they need watching or do you need to forbid it? Before forbidding something please try to give the children time and watch them. If they learn a dangerous thing you will save time later because your children have already learned.
- HeckFeck 4y agoIt makes you wonder how parents coped before the advent of modern medicine. Infant mortality was so very high - many of them wouldn't even get marked graves. This is also why the median age of death in the middle ages was so low.