Being able to steelman someone else's argument without adopting their presuppositions, while understanding and possible experiencing the emotional/intuitive phe

Being able to steelman someone else's argument without adopting their presuppositions, while understanding and possible experiencing the emotional/intuitive phenomena that got them to embrace them is a true test of your faith in your own worldview. If you "fail" that test, you will be absorbed into the outgroup and lose sight of your old emotional/intuitive presuppositions and worldview. You will lose a lot of friends and sunk costs, and be subjected to new rules. The risk is to literally lose your old self. That's horrifying, that idea can feel something like being abducted by the borg from star trek and converted into one of them.