No 4 year old ever pre-meditated a temper tantrum. They may have learned it gets them what they want, but there’s probably a good reason they want that thing t

No 4 year old ever pre-meditated a temper tantrum. They may have learned it gets them what they want, but there’s probably a good reason they want that thing that can be explored abd they can be taught better ways of asking for what they want and need or dealing when they don’t get it. They are not malicious