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I think this is pretty typical daycare behavior but it doesn’t mean it’s ok and shouldn’t be dealt with. certainly would encourage your son to use his words and
by actfrench 4y ago
I think this is pretty typical daycare behavior but it doesn’t mean it’s ok and shouldn’t be dealt with. certainly would encourage your son to use his words and set healthy boundaries, such as “you may not hit me.”
And to ask for help from the teacher. I would not encourage to teach him to hit back as that would most certainly escalate the situation and put him in greater danger as a child and adult.
Not sure about “boys will be boys “ that seems to be normalizing male violence in a way I don’t agree with and am uncomfortable with.
Would it be ok with you if a colleague hit you ? No it’s not ok at work and not ok at the Oscars. These boys rough housing need to learn to self-regulate and that is best done by a skilled educator who helps them learn and sets healthy boundaries with healthy consequences.
You might want to consider enrolling him in a karate class or some other martial arts class if you want to teach him how to have a strong presence that no one messes with and defend, not attack if absolutely necessary.
I will share that at three times in my life, I’ve been in danger of a sexual assault, once at the door of my apartment in nyc at 5am, once in the Paris subway and once in a stairwell in Haifa .
In each occasion , without thinking I turned around , hit my attackers arm away from me and screamed in my loudest deepest voice from the depths of my lungs “NOooooo!!!!” In each occasion they swiveled around and ran for their life (I will add I’m a petite 5’4 woman and they were much taller and stronger )
Had I hit them back, the situation might have ended much differently.
Please do not teach your child to hit back.
Please know it is normal to ask teachers to intervene if your child is physically hurt. When you intervene on behalf of your young child, he will feel safer and so he will feel stronger because he knows you are protecting him he will develop the power to protect himself.