1) I think you’d be really interested in taking a look at twice-exceptional and profoundly gifted kids. My overarching thought on this is that mastery learning

1) I think you’d be really interested in taking a look at twice-exceptional and profoundly gifted kids. My overarching thought on this is that mastery learning works so much better than classroom-style learning and any education solution that allows for 1-1 learning where students advance at their own pace, moving on to the next concept when they’ve mastered the one before it -whether that’s parent-led instruction , tutoring or self-directed with books and apps is going to be so so much faster. That’s why you see a lot of techies like nir eyal, naval, eric ries, Albert Wenger, doing modular learning or homeschooling w their kids. Mastery learning leads to two sigma better scores than group learning. And kids do learn Aton through play but there is no reason we have to smoosh together academic learning and social learning. Check out Benjamin bloom. 2) as an educator, I often find that the mom can take a more proactive role and I always wonder if I should say something. I don’t know where you live but the world is changing and I think it’s totally cool to shake up bad habits. You can absolutely tell your kids educator (in a kind way) that you are really passionate about your kids education and would love to be included just as much as mom. Or say hey I notice you direct correspondence to mom, We’re equal partners in this do can you include me ? I think many will be thrilled. On the other hand, I will say it can be useful to have one point person in the family. It’s just a lot of extra but important work teachers do communicating with parents and having to do it twice doubled the load. Maybe that point person could be you instead of your partner ! Be the leader in changing the culture !