You sound like an incredibly wonderful and loving parent who has gone to great lengths to navigate the world of empowering two neurodivergent kids in two househ

You sound like an incredibly wonderful and loving parent who has gone to great lengths to navigate the world of empowering two neurodivergent kids in two households with different rules and expectations in a school system without adequate funding and support for any type of learning that diverges from the norm. It's amazing how powerful a force love can be. Thank you for raising these amazing beings and helping them thrive in spite of the obstacles. And for being grateful. It's fantastic that your son found his way through the pressure of college. Clearly he has a lot of grit! With regards to your daughter, I see that you feel that online learning would not be a viable option for her and that socializing has been challenging. I need to do more research into autism, agoraphobia - and how to support students with autism that want to pursue careers that would require more socializing than they are comfortable with. However, I do know that there are a lot of innovative new models coming out. I feel a lot of hope for your daughter given the challenges your son over came. It helps to have a goal that makes people learn how to adapt to situations that are complex for them. I don't have much to offer you right now, but I promise I am going to look into this more deeply and see what I can come up with. I am sure that there are therapies that can help make your daughter feel more at ease in a social environment and paths to her future career that we might not know of at this time. I promise to get back to you soon. I will also say - Loneliness is an epidemic in our society, even for those of us who are extreme extroverts. The more you can hook into inclusive communities the better.