I recommend parents shift their framing to tantrums = self-regulation process. What helps: Validation, empathy, meeting the unmet core need behind the distress

I recommend parents shift their framing to tantrums = self-regulation process. What helps: Validation, empathy, meeting the unmet core need behind the distress, changing the environment to address the root cause for the distress. What does not help: adding more stress by threatening the child or pressuring them to control their emotional outburst. The outburst is the steam coming out of the safety valve.