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I think that tantrums are a cry for help and it's important to give our kids unconditional positive regard, that there's a legitimate reason behind their tantru
by actfrench 4y ago
I think that tantrums are a cry for help and it's important to give our kids unconditional positive regard, that there's a legitimate reason behind their tantrum, whether that's lack of sleep, need for love or sugar addiction:)
Personally, I always feel de-escalated when people validate my feelings, even if they don't follow my requests.
I would be concerned that by distracting and diverting a child, you actually prevent them from working through the difficult emotions they need to work through in their system.
- andrei_says_ 4y agoI recommend parents shift their framing to tantrums = self-regulation process. What helps: Validation, empathy, meeting the unmet core need behind the distress, changing the environment to address the root cause for the distress. What does not help: adding more stress by threatening the child or pressuring them to control their emotional outburst. The outburst is the steam coming out of the safety valve.