It's so important for you to take good care of yourself as a parent. Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting your child! First of all, you are more grounde

It's so important for you to take good care of yourself as a parent. Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting your child! First of all, you are more grounded and able to better perform an incredibly intricate job that requires a ton of emotional and physical energy (being a parent). Second, you are a better role model to your child. You are modeling that self-care is important and that self-care serves others well. I think that's much different than being selfish. Being selfish is not caring about the needs of others to the point of neglect. Do you feel that your self-care is negatively impacting your child? Would be nice to hear more about how you feel what you perceive as selfishness to be a problem for your child. Not only is self-care important, but there is a lot of research that shows helicoptering kids (giving them too much attention) is actually really bad for them. The Dean of Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims did a whole talk on this. Kids have book smarts, but not skills to live independently https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-5URlswrQ8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-5URlswrQ8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyElHdaqkjo&t=496s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyElHdaqkjo&t=496s