calibraxis, the thing about that is that what that kid said SOUNDED racist. But really the kid was just a little asshole. If you were white and had coke bottle

calibraxis, the thing about that is that what that kid said SOUNDED racist. But really the kid was just a little asshole. If you were white and had coke bottle lenses, he'd still have been nasty to you, he just would have done it a different way. Or if you were overweight. Or red-headed and covered with freckles. Or Asian. Or the poor kid who had holes in his clothes. Or were too eager to answer the teacher's questions… correctly. As the poor, chubby, too-smart girl, I got smeared with all kinds of shit in elementary & middle school. Then one day I realized: it's not about me, it's about them. It's like "sexism" too: If a bunch of sad, pathetic men hate & resent somebody and she's a woman, their insults will be sexual. But if a bunch of sad, pathetic men hate & resent another man, their comments will be equally vicious, they just aren't always sexual. But whereas the hated men do not think "oh no, it's because I am…" or "It's because I have a penis," they realize that the reason they're being picked on is petty jealousy and that WHAT the jerks say is actually immaterial. On the other hand, a woman will assume it's actually because she's a woman. I've watched this play out over & over & over. The bottom line is that people are assholes, and they will pick on ANYTHING different if they want to be mean to you. That doesn't mean you should assume the reason they are mean is because you have something different. They're just assholes with an opportunistic bent.