I would disagree with this wording "are trying to manipulate to get what they want." And it sounds like from the rest of the things you said, that you also agre

I would disagree with this wording "are trying to manipulate to get what they want." And it sounds like from the rest of the things you said, that you also agree with me that it's important to focus on the unmet need. Younger kids generally throw tantrums because they have a need that is not being met. It is possible that they may learn over time that a parent gives them whatever they want when they throw a tantrum, but this comes with time. I think that whether you're dealing with a manipulative child or a manipulative adult, there is always a need that's not being met, whether that's a need for love, validation, more sleep or a healthier breakfast. Rarely is a young child going to consciously decide to throw a tantrum to get some naughty, forbidden thing. Let's be realistic. THey're not criminal masterminds. These tantrums are rarely pre-meditated. Why not trust your child, give them the benefit of the doubt and not assume they are lying or trying to manipulate you? I bet if they see your trust, they'll tell you the truth about what's really bothering them. It can be confusing for a young child to try to sort through it all and figure out what they need. So you can help them! And if you really feel this tantrum is just a ploy to get what they want, then you may have taught them that they did get what they want when they threw tantrums in the mast. Maybe consider having a talk with them about how the past where you simply say, hey, I know that in the past I've given you candy when you cried, but I'm not going to do that anymore because I see it's making you cry more. I understand you are sad and can continue to cry for candy if you want, but I'm not going to give it to you. THe time you will get candy is xyz. Janet Lansbury did a whole podcast on how to address a situation where a child's emotions seem fake and manipulative here https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/04/when-a-childs-emotions-seem-fake-and-manipulative/ https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/04/when-a-childs-emotions...