I find the attitude "You have to work on this problem right now!!!!" to be a pompous, especially if you are unable to even define what the work you want done is

I find the attitude "You have to work on this problem right now!!!!" to be a pompous, especially if you are unable to even define what the work you want done is and it turns out it actually isn't urgent at all. What people who make requests like that want is their emotional state managed for them. They feel anxiety and often they have created the situation they are anxious about.