I've seen both (as I work in civil engineering). That is all dependant on the asphalt mix. Parking lots are usually not done with a proper performance graded as

I've seen both (as I work in civil engineering). That is all dependant on the asphalt mix. Parking lots are usually not done with a proper performance graded asphalt, so they'll deteriorate very easily under strenuous loading conditions. Roads (in well-regulated jurisdictions) use strong asphalt mixes with a lot of large granular aggregate and a lot less asphaltic content (and asphalt that's stable at higher temperatures). This makes roads a lot tougher in these loading conditions, but also tough (and therefore expensive) to put down - need to roll it fast while its still hot, with both steel drum rollers and rubber tyre rollers. Not saying they can't be damaged, just that a parking lot is a poor comparison