The wording above could be improved for sure. But the intention is to shift focus away from telling somehow how to solve a problem to forming consensus on wheth

The wording above could be improved for sure. But the intention is to shift focus away from telling somehow how to solve a problem to forming consensus on whether there's a problem at all. And that starts with the reviewer expressing a concern rather than immediately providing a solution. "Is a change needed?" should come before "this is a needed change". A better example might be "I'm seeing this same code in various places--do we benefit from keeping them distinct?" or "you took an inheritance approach here, but I'm concerned about the long-term impacts as the codebase changes. How do you think this code compares with a composition approach?". If in doing so you would think that I'm being sly, that's unfortunate, but there's not much I can do in how you interpret stuff. I can't control for others assuming bad faith. And if there's bad faith, there are probably communication and/or trust problems amongst the team members that are broader than code reviews, and is something that should be tackled directly.