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Yeah I remember being a junior and feeling like blunt comments were kind of rude. So I make an effort to be nicer to new developers - sometimes simply adding “w
by ginja 4y ago
Yeah I remember being a junior and feeling like blunt comments were kind of rude. So I make an effort to be nicer to new developers - sometimes simply adding “what do you think?”/“do you agree?” is enough to make those command style sentences sound much less blunt, and also encourages them to ask questions instead of blindly following my suggestion if they don’t fully understand it.
- graftak 4y agoTo me those questions could come off as condescending. I say could because I wouldn’t think that’s your intent, but the tone is there.
- kqr 4y agoThat depends entirely on whether you add the question as a formality or if you are genuinely interested in why the other person might disagree.
- graftak 4y agoTo me ’…don’t you agree?’ is the sort of rhetoric that parents use to make their kids internalise their beliefs. If someone disagrees I expect them to speak up, if they’re not so inclined I’m interested to know why, so we can address/resolve that and move on.
- Kaze404 4y agoThe comment says "do you agree?", not "don't you agree?". I agree that the latter sounds condescending, but the former sounds reasonable to me.