There's nothing wrong with having your username and real name tied together, unless you don't want certain information or views (i.e political affiliations, sex

There's nothing wrong with having your username and real name tied together, unless you don't want certain information or views (i.e political affiliations, sexual preferences, etc) which is broadcasted under your online persona to be associated with your real life person. The problem is that the OP didn't do the due diligence to create a different persona to voice subjects they did not want associated with them IRL. Like I said, I understand the damage has been done, but to prevent future instances (and possibly mitigate existing ones) the OP will have to take certain measures which may involve sacrificing information published under their current online persona (by deleting accounts, changing usernames etc). It should make things a little harder for online sleuths, but nevertheless not impossible to track down. I can provide another suggestion, which is to change their real name. Depends on the OP, how far they are willing to go to undo their mistake.