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There needs to be a middle ground though. When people air opinions they're unwilling to change, any criticism(no matter how justified) will feel like a personal
by mtlmtlmtlmtl 4y ago
There needs to be a middle ground though. When people air opinions they're unwilling to change, any criticism(no matter how justified) will feel like a personal attack, and bad faith arguing will tend to be the result.
In other words, stand by your position, but also learn when to admit you were wrong.
- ChrisMarshallNY 4y agoIn my case, that happens all the time. You probably won't have to search too far, to find me apologizing, admitting error, or finding a way to make amends. It's a fundamental tenet of my way of life. I promptly admit when I'm wrong. I've found the best way to avoid having to make amends, is to not cause the offense, in the first place. I tend to be fairly careful about keeping it in the "I," all the time (but no good deed goes unpunished -I am often told that "I'm making it all about me"). I do find that I get attacked, sometimes, right out of the blue, for stating personal philosophies and/or experiences. My fave is when I am told that something that happened to me "didn't actually happen." I assume that is because it is an inconvenient truth, for others. My experience, dealing with tech industry ageism, is a common fulcrum for that kind of response.
- mst 4y agoI've found the best way to avoid having to make amends is to not cause unintentional offence, certainly, and I've got (annoyingly) slowly better at it over the course of my life. Sometimes, though, I absolutely -do- intend to offend somebody, and in that case I own it.
- ByteJockey 4y ago> When people air opinions they're unwilling to change That's the thing, there are a lot more positions these days that people seem to be unwilling to change.