That's a big part of it, though I think it's fair to be a little more selective when there's only going to be one person in that role for the rest of your life

That's a big part of it, though I think it's fair to be a little more selective when there's only going to be one person in that role for the rest of your life But there's no such constraint on other relationships. Those deserve an abundance-mindset; go out into the world, see what people are like, don't assume you already know what you're looking for, see which relationships stick. You have almost nothing to lose. Edit: That said, lots of people are way too far on this end of the spectrum even when it comes to life-partnerships. The key is to dial in and not overestimate how much you actually know about other people, the world, and even yourself.