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Schedule a time where everyone agrees to not use screens. Dinner is a good starting point but ultimately, whatever works. Practice conversing and talking. Soc
by vorpalhex 4y ago
Schedule a time where everyone agrees to not use screens. Dinner is a good starting point but ultimately, whatever works.
Practice conversing and talking.
Socialising is a muscle, and smartphones (and other devices) are a crutch that lets us avoid using that muscle.
- arkitaip 4y agoBoards games and card games are great too.
- dumpsterlid 4y agoIt is the golden age of board gaming and it couldnt have come at a more crucial time.
- mrfusion 4y agoWhat are some good ones that work for common people?
- vorpalhex 4y agoBoard games fall into a few categories: https://www.gearhungry.com/types-of-board-games/ https://www.gearhungry.com/types-of-board-games/ Then within those categories you have easier and harder games (and better made or less better). Try a sampler platter and see what works and is fun. Some specific suggestions: Love letter, Takanoko, munchkin, elder sign.
- ornornor 4y agoCarcassonne, saboteur, splendor.
- thih9 4y agoWhat about people who use smartphones for socialising? Staying in touch with friends, finding new interesting people, browsing local events, deciding where to meet, etc.
- Swizec 4y agoWith the kind of friends who won’t leave you alone for 2 hours to focus on something important, who needs enemies?
- skydhash 4y agoBrowsing through my distractions websites- HN, Twitter, Reddit, Dilbert - only take me about 15 minutes to note everything interesting. I do that thrice a day, and it’s more than enough.
- rlayton2 4y agoUltimately, if you are using the smartphone for a deliberate purpose, that's probably fine. Looking up a recipe, contacting a loved one, reading an ebook. The problem is when you are just "on the phone", not really doing anything, not anything you planned to do, and not really getting anything done. Even this can be fine, as long as you go "I'd like to see whats on twitter for half an hour", rather than just opening things up and doing them because the algorithm pulls you in.
- vorpalhex 4y agoDo that in the other 22 hours of the day that isn't dinner. There's nothing wrong with smartphones per se. It's that the smartphones become a crutch to avoid socializing in person. All the excuses come out to prevent that crutch from being removed.
- downut 4y agoWe try hard to eat at the table together for all dinners and weekend breakfasts. Screens are strictly prohibited, even for guests. Some guests... hahaha, think this is quite the sacrifice. So what? My daughter has brought the convention to her group house. When we eat out we try to do the same but because of the damn menus, translation app, etc. the screens still come out. We still are usually doing much better than the other tables in the restaurants. Helps to turn the devil device face down. We think it is just so sad to see people out on a date, or even a clearly married older pair, each staring at their (own) screens.
- gjvnq 4y agoAs an aspie, that sounds like torture, particularly if I'm actually hungry.