You make quite a few assumptions about children bringing people joy and being something they’ll love more than anything else. That may be your experience, but

You make quite a few assumptions about children bringing people joy and being something they’ll love more than anything else. That may be your experience, but people can also resent their children, especially if giving birth causes life-long health issues. My parents never should have been parents. They were too busy, didn’t have enough money, and were physically and emotionally abusive. Their children didn’t bring them joy and they took their unhappiness out on us.