> Ghosting is not just for dates now. Then turn around and make choices in the long term that optimize employability at the expense of all else. This resonates

> Ghosting is not just for dates now. Then turn around and make choices in the long term that optimize employability at the expense of all else. This resonates with me (on both receiving and dealing ends). The lack of physical immediacy that IRL communities offer means it's easier to let relationships die off. One way to combat this that I've taken: Whenever I have a fond memory of someone I don't talk to as much as you used to, drop them a line. Send an email/DM, check-up on them, maybe share the memory. Then, have a call to action. If they're in your vicinity, invite them for a pint/warm beverage. If I don't have the courage or time at the moment, I make a calendar event in the near future. The key is to treat it as something important. Even if catching up doesn't mean you'll be meeting up every weekend or have a lively chat, you've reduced the friction of starting up a conversation then next time you feel like reaching out. The major discovery I made is that in every single case, no matter how long its been, I've never regretted this. Things have never been weird or awkward between friends. After I finished my master's degree, I realised there was a host of friends I'd left behind for over 3 years while I focused on my studies. My fear was that the ship had sailed with them, that they had moved on. I was so crazy wrong. With real connections, every time you pick up the phone, you just pick up where you left off.