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A lot of sex is not that great and therefore any overall reduction of sex may be a good thing, depending on which kind of sex we're having less of. Maybe a lot

A lot of sex is not that great and therefore any overall reduction of sex may be a good thing, depending on which kind of sex we're having less of. Maybe a lot more married women are not having sex with their husbands, which traditionally was not always an option. Maybe young people are rushing less into big relationships, and so without a steady partner regular opportunities for sex are reduced while at the same time more bad relationships (and marriages) are avoided. Maybe people are engaging more in non-intercourse sexual activity now that access to information about kinks and fetishes is universal. I say, let's stop stressing over the quantity of sex and instead focus on the quality of sex. We should want people to find partners where they can have open communication, and where they have similar desires and where they can share in enthusiastic consent. But this idea that "more penis in vagina = good" doesn't hold up to any scrutiny.

havblue 4y ago
For people with enough free time and no kids this might be the case, but I think once sex happens less than once a week it does become a quantity/intimacy problem in couples.
tcmart14 4y ago
I agree, the idea that we should focus on numbers isn't necessarily good. What I care about more is people are having sex and are enjoying it with their partners. Having lots of sex is great, but blindly jabbing holes with a penis doesn't mean anything spectacular or have any existential meaning. Are people have consensual sex in ways that they want and enjoy with the people they enjoy it with? Is it with the same person over and over or with a different partner every week? Does it matter?
yucky 4y ago
It's not just sex that is decreasing though, it's all forms of physical contact. Social interactions are decreasing in real life, so it's deeper than what your reply suggests.
aiisjustanif 4y ago
> We should want people to find partners > where they have similar desires and where they can share in enthusiastic consent Why? This just all reads from a somewhat monogamous point of view when that’s not the point of the research. Quality is important but their is a significant amount of people in most western countries that wouldn’t define quality sex how you just did.

havblue 4y ago

For people with enough free time and no kids this might be the case, but I think once sex happens less than once a week it does become a quantity/intimacy problem in couples.

tcmart14 4y ago

I agree, the idea that we should focus on numbers isn't necessarily good. What I care about more is people are having sex and are enjoying it with their partners. Having lots of sex is great, but blindly jabbing holes with a penis doesn't mean anything spectacular or have any existential meaning. Are people have consensual sex in ways that they want and enjoy with the people they enjoy it with? Is it with the same person over and over or with a different partner every week? Does it matter?

yucky 4y ago

It's not just sex that is decreasing though, it's all forms of physical contact. Social interactions are decreasing in real life, so it's deeper than what your reply suggests.

aiisjustanif 4y ago

> We should want people to find partners > where they have similar desires and where they can share in enthusiastic consent Why? This just all reads from a somewhat monogamous point of view when that’s not the point of the research. Quality is important but their is a significant amount of people in most western countries that wouldn’t define quality sex how you just did.