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There's also some very weird survivorship bias going on. Everyone you meet is the child of people who have sex. Even if they had the child via in vitro or adop
by bena 4y ago
There's also some very weird survivorship bias going on.
Everyone you meet is the child of people who have sex. Even if they had the child via in vitro or adopted or whatever. Your parents fuck.
So your parents fuck. Your friends' parents fuck. That asshole who bullies you in high school. Their parents fuck. It really does seem like everyone is fucking all the time. You live in a neighborhood where most people will also have kids. All those people? Fucking.
You know what happens to people who don't fuck? They don't have families. You never get to really interact with them until you or your friends become those people later in life. And it makes you wonder why you aren't fucking because when you were growing up, it seemed like everyone was. But it was only a very specific subset of people that made up your circle.
- wccrawford 4y agoNot having kids doesn't mean they aren't having sex. It isn't only a "very specific subset" of any circle.
- bena 4y agoRight. But if you aren't having sex, you aren't having kids. Growing up, you grow up in family. You grow up around families. You grow up around a group of adults who have all had sex. The more you grow up and become independent and your circle deviates from those of your parents, the more likely it is you will start running into people who haven't had sex. Or don't have as many opportunities to do so. You may even become one of those people. You think they're rarer than they are because you grow up surrounded by people who have sex. People with kids is a very specific subset. So people like the article's author think people are having less sex when the reality is that he just knows more people who aren't having as much sex as his parents and their circle did.