Well not completely wrong, this is a very pessimistic take. > You will have a much higher success rate as an average guy simply with a completely cold approach

Well not completely wrong, this is a very pessimistic take. > You will have a much higher success rate as an average guy simply with a completely cold approach This is where I think you're wrong. First, I'm probably never going to cold approach in public and neither are most men I know. It's not a matter of "growing a pair", it would require a personality change or being disingenuous. Second, cold approach is a terrible way to meet someone. It's like a tinder swipe where both parties have only 1-2 photos and no profile. Dating like this is a strict needle and haystack approach to finding a compatible partner. > These 11 phone numbers in 4 months led to 3 dates Before apps I was at 1-2/year. Now 1-2/week is possible, though time and energy keeps me at 1-3/month.