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> You are exposed to people that you'd NEVER meet in the more traditional sense. I’ve never used a dating app, but I’m curious about this. My assumption has be

by krrrh 4y ago

> You are exposed to people that you'd NEVER meet in the more traditional sense. I’ve never used a dating app, but I’m curious about this. My assumption has been that people filter pretty heavily on politics and religion, which are less advertised in person. Meeting people at a party or through social activities seemed to moderate people’s views long term because an initial attraction could lead to encounters with really different sorts of personalities and backgrounds and counter reinforcement of naive views of the world. For instance, more couples used to realize their votes cancelled out, so they would make a deal to just stay home and have sex instead of heading the the polls.

verall 4y ago
I'm not sure what your age/location is, but as a young American, young people filter for politics and religion in person just as fast as they do on a dating app. It is considered that compatible political and religious views are table stakes for a serious (non-hookup) relationship. For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviously conservative women exist, I have seen many on dating apps, the point is that the natural social circles have already formed strong bubbles such that hanging out let alone dating outside the tribe is unheard of. I'm not really complaining about this either, I'm not going to get along with a conservative in a normal sort of idle chatter situation. We could work or play a sport or videogame together but beers aren't going to be enjoyable once they start talking about wokeness poisoning the country.
- ryandrake 4y ago
  > For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviously conservative women exist, I have seen many on dating apps, the point is that the natural social circles have already formed strong bubbles such that hanging out let alone dating outside the tribe is unheard of. This is also a recent "feature", at least in the USA. My older extended family (parents, aunts, uncles) have political views all over the map, including between married couples, and it's no big deal. Back when they all got together, people weren't so much wrapping their entire identities into their political views. It was more taboo for a Protestant to marry a Catholic than for a Democrat to marry a Republican. Today, it seems people have replaced their religion with their political party, to the point where they consider "the other side" to be totally off-limits for dating or even friendship. I've got friends on both sides and it just seems so ridiculous to me, but I guess tribes gotta tribe.
  - ImPostingOnHN 4y ago
    it seems the country has grown less tolerant of intolerant political philosophies (ones which directly attack people, like saying they should have fewer rights, or die, etc.) IMHO, that has been a result of said philosophies pushing harder than ever on said viewpoints, angry that yelling them louder is failing to convince most people they don't suck

by krrrh 4y ago

verall 4y ago

I'm not sure what your age/location is, but as a young American, young people filter for politics and religion in person just as fast as they do on a dating app. It is considered that compatible political and religious views are table stakes for a serious (non-hookup) relationship. For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviously conservative women exist, I have seen many on dating apps, the point is that the natural social circles have already formed strong bubbles such that hanging out let alone dating outside the tribe is unheard of. I'm not really complaining about this either, I'm not going to get along with a conservative in a normal sort of idle chatter situation. We could work or play a sport or videogame together but beers aren't going to be enjoyable once they start talking about wokeness poisoning the country.

ryandrake 4y ago
> For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviously conservative women exist, I have seen many on dating apps, the point is that the natural social circles have already formed strong bubbles such that hanging out let alone dating outside the tribe is unheard of. This is also a recent "feature", at least in the USA. My older extended family (parents, aunts, uncles) have political views all over the map, including between married couples, and it's no big deal. Back when they all got together, people weren't so much wrapping their entire identities into their political views. It was more taboo for a Protestant to marry a Catholic than for a Democrat to marry a Republican. Today, it seems people have replaced their religion with their political party, to the point where they consider "the other side" to be totally off-limits for dating or even friendship. I've got friends on both sides and it just seems so ridiculous to me, but I guess tribes gotta tribe.
- ImPostingOnHN 4y ago
  it seems the country has grown less tolerant of intolerant political philosophies (ones which directly attack people, like saying they should have fewer rights, or die, etc.) IMHO, that has been a result of said philosophies pushing harder than ever on said viewpoints, angry that yelling them louder is failing to convince most people they don't suck