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They are only worth using as a man if you are ranked in the top 10% of superficial appearances. Those guys are going on dates with different women daily with th

They are only worth using as a man if you are ranked in the top 10% of superficial appearances. Those guys are going on dates with different women daily with these apps. If you don't believe me look up any YouTube video going undercover on Tinder masquerading as an attractive man. The thing is Tinder has 75 million active users. If we assume 75% of these active users are men, and only the top 10% of men will reliably match, approximately 51 million men are gambling their time away (75×.75×0.9=50.625)

webinvest 4y ago
Even if the dating pool consists of only the top 10%, women are still only going to swipe right on the top 5% of that.
- orangepurple 4y ago
  I'm not sure that this is a correct statistical interpretation
jjj123 4y ago
While I don’t disagree that it’s probably hard for your average straight guy to get a date on Tinder, I encourage you to stop thinking about attractiveness as something objective that everyone agrees on. There’s no such thing as a 1-10 scale everyone falls on. We all have types, and sometimes those types run counter to the mainstream definition of “attractive”. The trick is to figure out what type you are, and try to become the best version of that.
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- webinvest 4y ago
  You could make a startup or business from this
derbOac 4y ago
There were some really interesting analyses presented by a dating app several years ago (I don't remember which; they had a blog and I'm worried it's now buried outside of Google's apparent time window). One of the most interesting things was that there was a mismatch between men and women in interest versus openness and confidence. I don't remember the details, but I think the problem was something like women were more interested in a wider range than you'd think, because they were more afraid to approach/make contact with men they were attracted to, and men were more picky about attractiveness but also more assertive about contacting women. The net result of it all was that there were these attractiveness ranges that were being neglected not because of attractiveness per se but because of complicated dynamics in confidence of approaching at different levels and how different genders on average acted on perceived attractiveness. The analyses were like gender x attractiveness x willingness to approach x receptiveness to being approached. It looked like all four variables interacted at some level. Maybe it wouldn't generalize and maybe I'm remembering it incorrectly but it was something like that.
- webinvest 4y ago
  Maybe okcupid’s blogs by Christian Rudder? Probably only available on Archive.org
  - derbOac 4y ago
    I think that might have been it; it's the sort of thing that would be posted there, but I can't find what I'm thinking of in the places I've looked.

webinvest 4y ago

Even if the dating pool consists of only the top 10%, women are still only going to swipe right on the top 5% of that.

orangepurple 4y ago
I'm not sure that this is a correct statistical interpretation

jjj123 4y ago

While I don’t disagree that it’s probably hard for your average straight guy to get a date on Tinder, I encourage you to stop thinking about attractiveness as something objective that everyone agrees on. There’s no such thing as a 1-10 scale everyone falls on. We all have types, and sometimes those types run counter to the mainstream definition of “attractive”. The trick is to figure out what type you are, and try to become the best version of that.

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webinvest 4y ago
You could make a startup or business from this

derbOac 4y ago

There were some really interesting analyses presented by a dating app several years ago (I don't remember which; they had a blog and I'm worried it's now buried outside of Google's apparent time window). One of the most interesting things was that there was a mismatch between men and women in interest versus openness and confidence. I don't remember the details, but I think the problem was something like women were more interested in a wider range than you'd think, because they were more afraid to approach/make contact with men they were attracted to, and men were more picky about attractiveness but also more assertive about contacting women. The net result of it all was that there were these attractiveness ranges that were being neglected not because of attractiveness per se but because of complicated dynamics in confidence of approaching at different levels and how different genders on average acted on perceived attractiveness. The analyses were like gender x attractiveness x willingness to approach x receptiveness to being approached. It looked like all four variables interacted at some level. Maybe it wouldn't generalize and maybe I'm remembering it incorrectly but it was something like that.

webinvest 4y ago
Maybe okcupid’s blogs by Christian Rudder? Probably only available on Archive.org
- derbOac 4y ago
  I think that might have been it; it's the sort of thing that would be posted there, but I can't find what I'm thinking of in the places I've looked.