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Speaking as not the most attractive guy in the world, and also a prior user of dating apps. I don't think it's as one sided as you make out. Yes women probably
by benj111 4y ago
Speaking as not the most attractive guy in the world, and also a prior user of dating apps.
I don't think it's as one sided as you make out. Yes women probably want to trade up, but so do men but then if you actually want a relationship those things aren't really important so it's more a case of filtering the dross to find someone who actually wants a relationship. I'm not sure that would be easier as an 'attractive' male or female, your still going to get all the dross.
To add to your 1 data point, I'm currently in a long term relationship with someone I met online.
- atlasunshrugged 4y agoI'll second this comment- I'm definitely not in the top quartile of men in terms of attractiveness but on Hinge I regularly get dates, in no small part to being able to write messages when liking. Tinder and Bumble are meat markets, definitely, but Hinge (and probably others, I haven't tried that many more) do work with some effort put into crafting a thoughtful introduction message.
- wnolens 4y agoJumping on here too. It's a lot of work, and can feel demoralizing.. but at the end of the day I go on way more dates than I ever did without apps. I attribute it to being able to display more about myself in a quick snapshot for women to peruse. Rather than just see my average face, they get the sense from my profile that I am interesting.
- mrwh 4y agoPlus one to this. I think it's both true that the app-based dating world is demoralising and heavily biased towards a privileged minority of users and that the pre-app world was even worse.