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Market homogenization (because of the apps) leads to a larger scale of 'winner takes all' dynamics, ie increasing inequality. The top players in the market are

Market homogenization (because of the apps) leads to a larger scale of 'winner takes all' dynamics, ie increasing inequality. The top players in the market are probably getting way more offers than they can, um, service, and for anyone in the lower ranks, the effort/reward is uneconomic.

CuriouslyC 4y ago
This does happen, but mostly for men. The most successful men are seeing a different girl 5 nights a week. Typically women will tend to try a few men out, then stick with a favorite or two. Men at the bottom get absolutely nothing, while women at the bottom mostly end up going on bad dates or getting used for sex.
- kvgr 4y ago
  Why do you think they are getting used for sex? If they have sex on the first date it is free will or bad judgement... players will not go on 5 dates withgirl just to have sex if they can have it easier. Woman either want sex and then they are both using each other, which is fine. Or they need to update their filter. And yes, sometimes bad shit happens, when guy dumps you after couple dates and sex. But the same happens to guys.
  - CuriouslyC 4y ago
    Women at the bottom are generally desperate and horny, and so even if they want to try and filter out players their ability to say no to someone slightly out of their league who is being affectionate is pretty limited, so they will lie to themselves with thoughts like "this time will be different" and "we really like each other." Dating sites also disincentivize most people from being honest about what they want in their profile, since women who state that marriage and children are a must and men who just want sex both get way way fewer views and contacts than people with more open interests. As a result, people tend to keep their interest "open" with the idea that they'll "convert" the person to their desires after they start dating.
jimbob45 4y ago
Uneconomic? It's laziness. If you went up to any guy in the 90s and told them that you had a device with a 1/50 chance of pairing them up with a woman that wanted to have sex with them every night that they spent 15 minutes on said device, they'd beg you to sell it to them for any price. Now, those odds are apparently not good enough for the men of the 2020s. It's insane - these men just don't want sex enough if they're not willing to spend 15 mindless minutes a night swiping and messaging.
guerrilla 4y ago
> Market homogenization (because of the apps) leads to a larger scale of 'winner takes all' dynamics, ie increasing inequality. Not sure if you know this but almost all the apps you've ever heard of are owned by precisely one company: the Match Group.

CuriouslyC 4y ago

This does happen, but mostly for men. The most successful men are seeing a different girl 5 nights a week. Typically women will tend to try a few men out, then stick with a favorite or two. Men at the bottom get absolutely nothing, while women at the bottom mostly end up going on bad dates or getting used for sex.

kvgr 4y ago
Why do you think they are getting used for sex? If they have sex on the first date it is free will or bad judgement... players will not go on 5 dates withgirl just to have sex if they can have it easier. Woman either want sex and then they are both using each other, which is fine. Or they need to update their filter. And yes, sometimes bad shit happens, when guy dumps you after couple dates and sex. But the same happens to guys.
- CuriouslyC 4y ago
  Women at the bottom are generally desperate and horny, and so even if they want to try and filter out players their ability to say no to someone slightly out of their league who is being affectionate is pretty limited, so they will lie to themselves with thoughts like "this time will be different" and "we really like each other." Dating sites also disincentivize most people from being honest about what they want in their profile, since women who state that marriage and children are a must and men who just want sex both get way way fewer views and contacts than people with more open interests. As a result, people tend to keep their interest "open" with the idea that they'll "convert" the person to their desires after they start dating.

jimbob45 4y ago

Uneconomic? It's laziness. If you went up to any guy in the 90s and told them that you had a device with a 1/50 chance of pairing them up with a woman that wanted to have sex with them every night that they spent 15 minutes on said device, they'd beg you to sell it to them for any price. Now, those odds are apparently not good enough for the men of the 2020s. It's insane - these men just don't want sex enough if they're not willing to spend 15 mindless minutes a night swiping and messaging.

guerrilla 4y ago

> Market homogenization (because of the apps) leads to a larger scale of 'winner takes all' dynamics, ie increasing inequality. Not sure if you know this but almost all the apps you've ever heard of are owned by precisely one company: the Match Group.